If I were to choose one quality about a human that is highly irritating, cringe worthy and might I add totally unnecessary, it would be stinginess aka ‘tightaresness’.
After a blood boiling hour-long discussion with my girl friends regarding this dreadful habit, the topic of dating and paying for the first date came up. We laughed hysterically at general stories and recent encounters and so I was told ‘Noor, If you are going to write about anything, this is what you need to bloody write about’. They wanted to be heard, and as always their wish is my command.
Dear man, when you are about to embark upon a first date, please take note: –
Do not make a girl pay a cent on the first date- the cost of her drink or meal is NOT going to send you bankrupt, trust me.
Refrain from saying ‘ don’t worry, next time’ – NO. This is only acceptable if you don’t actually mean it which would be evident by your tone of voice. There is no next time if you have already calculated that your next meal is going to be covered.
Splitting the bill- what is that? A girl would much rather pay for the entire meal to save herself some dignity than cover her share only.
Do not brag and/or discuss what you earn. If you are after a ‘normal’* woman she shouldn’t care.
Do not talk about how expensive things on the menu are – chances are you chose the place, so there shouldn’t be any surprises here. If you can’t afford something on the menu, just don’t order it. Basically, don’t talk about money full stop.
Most females don’t actually care about the money here – we can fend for ourselves. What I am talking about is the principle. Take the lead, its admirable and extremely attractive. If you can’t show the girl that she is worth that $30, she’s pretty much lost faith in you.
I also need to make it clear – I am only talking about the first few dates. Once the relationship is established (if successful) however, you and your partner choose to pay for things between you varies. I’m simply placing emphasis on the importance of first impressions, it’s no secret that a little generosity goes a long way.
Meowwww …Please note that I am not referring to the ‘Omg babe you are so hot’, ‘ My Gucci bag is real I swear’ ‘Kim K is my Idol’ kind of female, with them you might have to pay for the rest of your life, but don’t say I didn’t warn you.
In all, I believe that being a tightarse should be a crime. Honestly, aint no body got time for it.
A strange encounter with a very cheerful bus driver this week got me thinking about the below…
There is simply nothing more attractive than a gesture of kindness or an indication of good mannerisms. This may be foreign for some as nowadays we command simple courtesy, one that should be standard.
Passengers were confused (including myself) when the driver individually greeted each person as they stepped on the bus. Half way through the journey he apologised loudly for being ‘cheerful and polite’ – but why was it such an odd thing?
To think we live in a society where politness could be portrayed as a sign of weakness and friendliness as way of flirting is poor. Subsequently dear man, opening a door could really take you far, and dear woman, always carry yourself like a lady, in a tough world being delicate surely sets you apart!